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Welcome to stillhotunderthecollar.com, a continuing conversation for those things that stir us up, give us pause, or make us hot under the collar.
Monday Morning Musing: Healing One Another
In the days following Bruce’s death I had a repeated longing to talk to my maternal grandmother, my Nanny. She has been gone from this...
Independence Day
Bruce and I were never consistent about how we celebrated Independence Day. Sometimes we just stayed at home. Sometimes we braved the...
Monday Morning Musing: Time Travel
Yesterday I realized that we would have no June 31st on the calendar to mark the month since Bruce’s death.  As we do in September,...
Monday Morning Musing: Maps & the Places We Inhabit
There is a store near Pike Place Market called Metzker’s Maps. I’ve always loved this shop where everything they sell is designed to...
Monday Morning Musing: Lean on Me
Lean on me, when you’re not strong, I’ll be your friend, I’ll help you carry on, for it won’t be long ‘til I’m gonna need, somebody to...
Friday the 13th and Black Cat visitors
Friday, June 13, 2025 When Bruce was in the hospital, the day shift nurse always changed the day and date on the white board in his room,...
Monday Morning Musing: New Truths
For the past month, the majority of my writing has been posted to Caring Bridge. There was, I believe, exactly one Substack post in what...
Monday Morning Musing: The Beating of the Drum
For the first time since I started this Eastertide gratitude practice, I’ve let it lapse. It’s not that I am not grateful for many...
Fifty Days of Gratitude: Days 6,7,8,&9
Now that the PNW is trying its hardest to give us more consecutive days without rain, I’ve been walking outside more often than I do in...
Fifty Days of Gratitude: Day 5
This morning I read that the National Institutes of Health were going to cut funding that supports research into women’s health,...
Fifty Days of Gratitude: Day Four
One of the positive things about Social Media is that it’s possible to go back and see what we’ve posted on this date in years past. For...
Fifty Days of Gratitude: Day Three
I’ve long considered three my lucky number. I don’t know why exactly, but I don’t have to look far for the best example. I am the very...
Fifty Days of Gratitude: Easter Sunday & Monday
Twelve years ago I began this practice of naming gratitude daily during the Fifty Days of Easter. I remember the season well; at that...
Monday in Holy Week Musing: Rabble Rousers
Every year, during Holy Week, the musical soundtrack of our family life is Andrew Lloyd Weber’s Jesus Christ Superstar. This has been...
Monday Morning Musing: Being a Prisoner
For those who keep time by the Church’s calendar, this week will walk us toward Palm Sunday. I still vastly prefer, for reasons...
Musing on a Saturday
It is not Monday – it is Saturday morning as I write this reflection for you who so generously give of your time to read what is shared...
The Feast of the Annunciation | 3.25.25
Today the Church remembers the Annunciation – when Gabriel came to Mary to bring the news that she had been chosen to bear the son of...
Monday Morning Musing: A Heart Re-Set
Last week I took what basically amounted to a little over 24 hours just for myself. When I type that out in a sentence, it even looks...
Monday Morning Musing: Walking the Walk
I have a story to share this morning that is still so fresh and new and tender that to share it almost feels too early. I’ve been...





















